I have
to work with people I don’t like
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I used to be firm with the principle of
ignoring people I don’t like. I have this selfish conviction of
treating people that I way I see them. If I don't like you, you have to settle with my terms. I will ignore your presence. I will never communicate nor reach out.
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I used to hate the idea of pretending to be good. In the local colloquial parlance, I equated this act as becoming plastic. Over time, I realized this personal immaturity. I gained better understanding of the meaning of being professionally civil.
I learned that being civil is way different than pretending to be good. Pretending to be good is wearing the fake mask of a good person. This means forcing yourself to be good. Everything is a mere show. Being professionally civil means choosing to be in the shoes of the mature person. I chose to be good because I allowed maturity to overcome my selfish conviction. It will never be easy to be good to people I don't like. But at the very least, I'm giving them a chance. I'm likewise giving myself the chance to leave the excess baggage and accommodate better working relationships.
I share this in common with you, Diane. Actually, I am almost incapable of faking and hiding my (negative) feelings towards a person. I am cheering you on for taking the mature step of being civil! :)
ReplyDeleteWe're kind of the same. I don't make "plastic" people, if I don't like you I won't talk to you, unless I have to. The "unless I have to" is another way of saying I know to be civil with a person. For instance, at work, I don't always get along with some people, particularly with the boss. So I only talk to them when it's work related. Besides, I go there to work, not to make friends. If I'm able to find friends in the work place, that's just a bonus.
ReplyDeleteI have always believed, it is better to be civil than to be "plastic". I know many who are chummy with you but talk ill of you the moment you turn your back. At least by just being civil, we are not forced to be friends with everyone, still we can co-exist peacefully.