We are all blinded by our own beliefs and biases. I forgot the book where I encountered this quote. It might be in #GirlBoss or Think Like a Freak. But this has been the theme of the past week. It all started when I attended a small meeting. In the course of the discussion, there were some issues brought up. At that time, I felt it was inappropriate for me to express my dissenting thought. I kept quiet. A few days after, I had the chance to speak with one of the convenors. I related my sentiments. I tried my best to explain my point. The thing is, I'm not the best person to win arguments. Engaging in debates was never my turf. So most of the time, even though I have a valid point. I have supporting evidences, I ended adding another humiliating and stupidity story in my list of noted accomplishments. Hahaha
During the weekend, I related my story to my friend M. What I thought as another sad and "crayola" saga became another night when you laugh at your own mistakes. We reached the conclusion that there are really people in our lives who possess that one great talent to make us feel dumb, stupid and like a huge sore loser. Aside from our mothers (hahahaha), there's that one person endowed with all the intelligence to win all arguments. While this may appear as a great survival weapon, I sometimes don't wish to have this trait. The problem with people who always win arguments, they have a tendency to make the rest feel dumb and stupid. I remember once posting this in my Facebook account, you won the argument but never our sentiments. That was how I exactly felt after relating my sentiments. It's great to be surrounded with smart people. You learn from them. But there are times when listening and trying to acknowledge the reason behind someone else's sentiments serve as the "smarter" way to win an argument. However, some people are already blinded by their own set of beliefs or biases. The doors have been chained and locked up, long before you have attempted to knock. Knocking will be useless. You will never be heard in the first place.
Okay, I'm done. Hahaha Setting aside this serious and stupid aspect of my life, here are the few beautiful things that made my week
Another collection of vintage postcards - I visited again my favorite shop in Sta. Cruz Manila and was able to score some used and unused vintage cards. I hope my friends would love the cards as well.
Scenes from Escolta - I will always be one of the few old souls, who will never stop dreaming for Escolta. I hope this historical site be restored and preserved again. I'm always for heritage preservation.
Another scarf - Thank you Mother E! for the cutest silk scarf. My second problem, how and where to wear this? Hahaha I need to have a trip soon.
Happy 150th Birthday Beatrix Potter! - I never thought that the movie, Miss Potter, was about Beatrix Potter. I'm quite familiar with the story of Beatrix Potter but after watching the movie, my admiration just intensified. I love Beatrix Potter more!!! Beatrix Potter lived in a time period when women are less empowered. Women are expected to get married and become dutiful wives. And those who don't get married are .... considered as outcasts. Hundreds of years passed, the culture is still prevalent. (Take it for the 30 year old single person in me) I was almost of the same age of Beatrix Potter, when she was on her way to publish her books. I admired how she chased her dreams. She knew exactly what she wanted. She was dedicated to her field. What I didn't expect was the love angle in Beatrix Potter's life. She was loved and I loved how it happened.
July is over and I'm welcoming another month of surprises?! To more happy stories, crazy dinner with friends, postcards, freelance works and great movies! And oh, lesser meetings and a more quiet but productive life ... I guess hahahaha
Hello Diane,
ReplyDeletegreat vintage postcard finds! That historic looks lovely. I'm all for preserving too! I'm sorry about the argument, just remember that not all who "win" an argument are right ;-) Wishing you a great and stressfree week ahead! x.
I like that starting quote Diane for whichever book it came frome. kekekekee.
ReplyDeleteI really feel what you feel about a friend or two who seem never want to lose the argument. He/she have to win every argument. I have few of them surround me and yes, they love making the other people look bad or stupid. I once said, "making someone looks bad, doesn't mean you are much better, some people are too tired to argue." related to the supporting evidence and valid point you said above.
Whatever I keep distance with that kind of people. *I talk to much since i easily become those people target*
And, I really like every tone of your pictures Diane.
Gusto ko yung realization mo sa mga naunang paragraph :) May mga ganun talagang tao, mga ayaw patalo. Kaya minsan talaga, hahayaan mo na lang; hayaan mo na silang maging masaya at feeling accomplished sa mga sariling level nila. At oo, mukha lang tayong tanga kung makikipag-bangayan tayo sa kanila, it's such a waste of time! Hahaha, relate na relate ako :) Kaya nga minsan nire-rehearse ko na lang sa salamin sa banyo yung gusto kong sabihin sa mga taong ganun; salamin sa banyo na lang kasi pag sa kanila mo sinabi di rin nila mage-gets, nakaka-frustrate lang hahaha.
ReplyDeleteAugust na... I'm feeling the haggardness of this month lols.
Hindi rin ako masyado magaling mag-explain, lalo na pag pinagtatanggol ko sarili ko. Kailangan upuan ko muna mabuti, bago ako humarap sa kaaway/kadebate ko. Ganun. Kill 'em with kindness na lang, ala Selena Gomez, hahahaha.
ReplyDelete"To more happy stories, crazy dinner with friends, postcards, freelance works and great movies!" Amen. :)
"Engaging in debates was never my turf" - story of my life as well :)
ReplyDeleteI loved the Miss Potter movie too. The scenery was fabulous and I admire her even more now that I know she bought and preserved many small farms around her farm and gave them to the National Trust. Yes, I agree, preserving historic sites is important. That new scarf of yours is pretty, I hope you wear it with that top, and have a fun adventure.
ReplyDeleteEscolta FTW! i love love love, hopefully the new admin/govn take an action about the historical heritage like the escolta and vicinity also the metropolitan theater.
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